All You Need is Love

Well, not quite, but almost. Love is a requirement, a foundation, the place from which we start when we form a community, especially a learning community.

As a leader I would start by letting each and every staff member and student know that they are loved, automatically, without having to earn it first. This is because in order for me to do the job I need to do, need to start with love for the people with whom and for whom I work.

Love is a scary word for many people. It's too intimate, too mushy, too touchy-feely, too insincere. But I don't think anything short of love will do the job. If a community accepts me, asks me to join, and most importantly asks me to lead, I'm going to love each and every member of that community.

That love will help me find the energy, the compassion, the perseverance I will need to help every person grow. Wherever they are, each teacher, each staff member, each student can grow and learn and improve, and they will do that best when they are loved.

This does not mean I will have less love for my family and friends. This does not mean I will have no other life outside of my job. On the contrary, if I also love myself, I must make time for me. Self-love includes taking time for yourself, doing the things you love, and staying connected to the very people who make your life worth living. But it does mean I will work hard, I will spend extra time, I will keep learning and growing myself.

At the center of it all is our students. Every adult needs to feel the same love I do for our students. For us to work as hard as we need to work, to recover from setbacks, to get past the overwhelmed feeling we all have sometimes, to care most about the kids who are hardest to care about, there must be love. Once the foundation is there, the community that is built can support each member on his or her learning journey.

Strengths-Based Leadership

Can you imagine asking your staff at the end of the school year, "If you could describe your dream position next year, what would it be?" What would response would you get? What could you learn? How would people feel about being asked? What would you do with the information you learn?

I have a few ideas...

• You would go a long way to build relationships with your staff just be showing interest in what they think and how they feel;
• You would be able to personalize PD for your staff by searching out resources that could help them grow in their areas of interest;
• You would help staff reflect on their practice and lead them to a focus area for the year;
• You could provide support that would help and encourage them to pursue a goal;
• You might make staff adjustments to help people do what they want to do;
• You might develop new courses of study, clubs, or PLCs based on interests.

One thing about which I am sure is this: if you ask staff to share their passions and goals and you work to help them engage in those passions and reach those goals, you will have a staff that is invested in their school and willing to go above and beyond the call of duty.

Building Relationships

As George Couros says in The Innovator's Mindset, "If we want meaningful change, we have to make a connection to the heart before we can make a connection to the mind."

Connecting to a person's heart requires a strong, positive relationship. Relationships are intentional, they take effort to build, but that doesn't mean they can be faked. A leader must genuinely care about the people he or she leads to have the most success in building relationships. There is no shortcut here. All day every day leaders need to show they care by listening, asking about people's lives both in and out of school, remembering details that are important to people, celebrating success, offering support, and making time for people.

Just as important, leaders need to model the relationship-building actions they'd like their staff to use. Leaders need to be all in for whatever the school needs, willing to do any job because all jobs are important, and interacting with all students because they are ALL our students. Leaders need to hold expectations high for staff and even higher for themselves, share their goals and passions, take risks, admit mistakes, model growth, be human, and also be their best selves.

When staff can connect to their leader on a human level and they know their leader genuinely cares about them as people, they will be ready to learn from and with that leader in the name of what's best for kids.

I #loveteaching

     I #loveteaching because of the impact I get to make on our future. I believe all children come to kindergarten with enthusiasm, joy, and wonder about the world, even students whose traumatic lives make it difficult to express it. Teachers have the opportunity to further foster those traits in their students each and every day of each and every school year. Students who learn from these teachers will be creative, kind, and positive learners who will grow up to create the kind of world in which we all want to live. To be clear, when I say teachers, I mean to include all educators-principals, counselors, specialists, interventionists, para-educators-ALL educators. There are so few professions that get to say they play such an important role in the lives of others as well as the future of our society and the world.
     Don't get me wrong. What I'm talking about here is not easy. Teachers must juggle the restraints, demands, and requirements of their jobs with creating a culture of safety, acceptance, and challenge in their classrooms and schools. This can sometimes feel like an impossible task. However this is where every teacher can make a choice to persevere in the work they know is so critical despite the demands of their jobs. The key word here is choice.
     Teachers can choose to build relationships, to work hard, to respect all families, to improve their teaching, to challenge students where they are, to recognize all staff as playing essential roles, to enjoy teaching, and to be all in for education. I know I've made these choices, and it has paid off in the learning I see every day.

Leading is Serving

Some who read the title of this blog will understand it immediately. Some may need clarification. Some will think I've written an oxymoron.

It might be helpful to know that I am an educator. Currently I serve as a Lead Teacher in a K-4 school  in Connecticut. Previously I was a classroom teacher for fifteen years at the elementary and middle school levels. In all of these positions I led students and staff by serving them.

I find resources for teachers who want to try new strategies with their students. I process problems with children to help them learn from their mistakes and restore their relationships with their friends. I meet with parents to plan family activities that get people involved in our school. I supervise in the cafeteria and at dismissal. I say hello and smile at everyone I pass in the hall. I stop and listen to anyone who wants to let me know when there is an issue or when a student has met a goal or when a parent is ill. I believe every interaction is an opportunity to build a relationship.

Of course a leader develops a vision for his school. In creating this vision, the leader is serving his people by imagining a lofty goal that he expects the school to reach.

However, in order to guide and support the school in achieving the vision, the leader must serve his people through strong relationship-building and hands-on involvement in the day-to-day activities of the school. This is leading through serving.